Saturday, October 14, 2017

The ME Indie Jukebox October 11, 2017

Adam and Abbo are in the house and we are playing out some of the coolest indie tunes from across the Middle East.

This week Abbo has brought some great live tunes and we have some tunes that will surprise you.

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Flash emerging talent
Which school advisor
Go Play the World

Warehouse sessions

SHEIKH_Fortune 4:28
Hasan Hujairi Prelude For Orpheus 2.mp3 3:48
Tsinelas_Net-twerking(radio-friendly version) 4:23
Verdad - Beauty Under Hills (BUH) 4:54

The Advice Call-in with James Kelley October 11, 2017

Dr. James Kelley is back on the call-in show on Nightline where we tackle the questions you are asking and want to sound off about.

This week we are talking about advice, who is giving it and how well are we taking it.

As it turns out some advice we get is great but for the most part people are giving advice without asking if we want it.

And then there is the situation where you give great advice based on your situation but the same situation doesn't happen for others when they take your advice making the advice dreadful.

This is another informative and entertaining hour of Nightline.

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The Show Notes.

This is the Dr/Dr show or the all James show….
Dr. James Kelley joining us on the Call-in James is a professor at UAEU and makes the trip in from Al Ain because you matter!

This evening we are talking advice, recommendations and you!

Advice and recommendations do you give it? Do you use it? Where do you draw the line? Do you give advice with a use at your own risk warning?

My story with KLM, Car repair, tech… give advice but what if the results are not as they were for me?

Course choices at University…

Travel choices….

Career choices….

So, how do you deal with people giving you advice? Do you take it? Ignore it? Apply it? Smile and move on? Has taken advice been a bad thing for you?

Advice is a big deal and something that we dispense, often without really giving a lot of thought to it, even when our profession is giving advice we can get it wrong.

Maybe we need to bite our tongues!

An axiom in counseling and in general communication is to avoid giving advice. That's because one or more of these is likely:
  • The person knows himself and his situation better than you do. So a recommendation that comes from you may not consider all the relevant factors.
For example, let's say you suggest ways the person could overcome procrastination in looking for a job. You may not be aware that, deep down, the person knows s/he'd be a bad employee or that s/he doesn't actually want to work but prefers to have someone support him or her.
  • Getting advice makes the person feel disempowered.
  • The person isn't ready to hear your advice.
  • The person disdains you as trying to show you're superior.
No matter how it's couched, it's wise to resist giving advice, especially if unasked-for. But not always. If you feel you should offer a suggestion, might you want to try one of the above?

BEWARE of advice givers!
Some people show greater interest in solving your problems than they do their own. In such cases, what might these self-appointed, habitual advice-givers be revealing about themselves? Actually, much more than you may have realized.
What the chronic advice-giver’s suggestions—often gratuitous and unsolicited—typically betray is a powerful need to prove to themselves that they could deal with your difficulties better than you could ever be expected to. And also that the depth and breadth of their intelligence, knowledge and comprehension indicates a still more general superiority over you. Assuming that this strong impulse to give you unsought advice is something you’ve also seem them demonstrate with others, such behavior hints at a person whose ego demands perpetual reassurance: That it needs to be regularly reminded that it’s exceptional—somehow of a higher “rank” or “order” than the one who’s receiving the advice.

Do you bite your tongue on giving advice maybe you should?

If you’re one of those people who can’t help but give it away, here is my advice, and yes, you asked for it, or you wouldn’t be reading this:
1. Shut the f#$k up.
Shutting the f#$k up is the number one most effective cure for advice-promiscuity. Please note: your freedom to voice your opinion is always sacrosanct. So is your freedom to eat McRibs and have sex without a condom. Use your freedoms wisely. Or risk being labeled an asshole.
2. Before giving your advice to others, try giving it to yourself to see how you like it.
So, how’d that go? Like it? If your knee-jerk reaction was to tell yourself to “shut the f#$k up,” well, maybe you’ve got a point there.
3. Abide By The Rubber and Glue Principle.
Your five-year old nephew is correct: Whatever you say does, in fact, come right back to you. Odds are, whatever advice you yearn to bestow upon others is advice you are in need of following, yourself. This is not my opinion, but a universal truth. If you don’t believe me, do an Internet search for “psychological projection”.
4. Don’t ask for advice.
You know you don’t want it. So if you find yourself seeking advice, you’d be better off acknowledging your true agenda: opening the door to being all slutty with your unsolicited advice. But don’t kid yourself. You’re not fooling anyone. Everyone has a tell, and everyone knows yours. Don’t make us see it. It’s unbecoming. And you know you wanted this advice, or you wouldn’t be reading here.
5. Be a better person.
Your need to give advice most likely stems from a desire to improve yourself. Just do that. It would be a far greater gift to the world than any advice you could ever give.
6. Aversion therapy.
Your compulsion to give away your advice can only exist if you believe that others want it. This is a delusion. It arises for any one of a number of reasons, but the reason doesn’t matter. What matters is that you shut the f#$k up. The time-honored and most low-tech method of nipping a compulsion in the bud is aversion therapy. Here’s how it works in this case: you wear a rubber band on your wrist, and snap it every time you want to offer unsolicited advice. And if you don’t have enough discipline to make yourself do so, then recruit your friends to do it for you. Whenever you begin a sentence with “You should,” they will be entitled to snap away.
7. Express yourself creatively.
By finding creative ways to express your feelings, you can effectively take the edge off of your compulsion to offer unsolicited advice to others. That’s why I write. It totally eliminates my impulse to offer unsolicited advice. Now you know. But you don’t have to write. You can paint or sing in the shower or make grumpy cat memes. The possibilities are endless really. Just find something that engages you, and you may forget all about the fact that you have super-important opinions to share and advice to bestow on others.
8. See a shrink.
With a shrink, you can whine about how everyone needs your advice but is too stupid/closed-minded/afraid to take your advice. Unlike your stupid/closed-minded/scared friends, your shrink won’t react by screening your calls. She’ll even talk about what it means and why you see things the way you do. Pretend-friend and psychological analysis in one? I call that a win-win.
9. Don’t pretend that offering your opinion isn’t just another way of giving advice.

“I’m entitled to my opinion,” you say. But everyone knows that an opinion is nothing more than passive aggressive advice. No one is fooled. When you say “I liked your hair better long,” I know that you mean “Please grow your hair long again.” Everyone knows. So just stop.
9a. Corollary to 9: Don’t ask a “question” for the sole purpose of offering your opinion.
Example: “Are you going to wear that?”
I know, and you know, and you know that I know, that the rest of the conversation will go according to a script that was written at the dawn of time. It will end with your offering unsolicited advice about what I am wearing. Don’t go there. And if you really don’t know that, then when in doubt, see number (1) above.
10. Filter the incoming..
Others will offer their own opinions and advice all day long. If you accord equal value to all of it, you will quickly become confused and irritable, and the only way you will know how to make the chaos stop is by purging the unsolicited opinions and advice by giving it all away to others, unsolicited. Do not fall into this trap. Filter what comes in. Then you won’t have the need to vomit it back up.
11. Believe in yourself.
Your beliefs do not depend upon validation from others. At the risk of sounding all “woo”, I suggest that if you do what you know is right, and if you believe in your own intuition and your ability to make rational judgements and take reasonable actions, you will have no need to get in anyone else’s face about anything.
If you can’t, then just shut the f#$k up. Please. And always say “please”. Thank you.

If we really want to encourage behavior (or belief) change in others we actually need to move away from advice giving (especially when our advice is unsolicited) and toward modeling. In other words, we need to be an example for others rather than telling them what to do.
Research on observational learning (in conjunction with an understanding of reactance theory) suggests that while people will resist unsolicited advice and instruction, they will follow the behaviors of others—especially when there appear to be good and reinforcing outcomes from these behaviors (or beliefs).
Here's a good recent example: One of the most delightful families I met at my son's high school are evangelical Christians. But I had no clue what their religious affiliation was for about 3 years, after spending lots of time with them at track meets and other events. They modeled friendliness, graciousness, and caring better than anyone else I knew at this large public high school. Only during a casual conversation at one of our children's last track meets did I even have any idea of their beliefs and traditions. They modeled wonderful and appealing behaviors without a word and set an excellent example for others—very different than the folks knocking on the door telling you what you should do and believe.  
If you really want to encourage behavior change in those around you, model the behavior that you want and keep your advice-giving instincts in check. I know—I'm giving advice here, and perhaps contradicting myself, but still, just consider this strategy and see how it works out for you.

TechTalk October 10, 2017

This week on the show Andrew Thomas from Nexa is back in the co-pilot seat.

This week Andrew talks about Customer Experience and User Experience from his trip to 2 conferences talking tech and CE/UX in the US.

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The Show Notes.

Let’s talk about what you learned from the trip!
Chicago customer experience show
Inbound boston

Why GITEX is so important and what we learn.

-High Sierra on a 2011 macbook pro is ok, machine shut down when the update was happening, but I got it sorted thanks to the tech team at ZU.

Why are API’s important?
  1. a set of functions and procedures that allow the creation of applications which access the features or data of an operating system, application, or other service.
We are in the fourth industrial revolution, where software can replicate value at zero-marginal cost and where data is the new oil. You may remember this story about Microsoft versus IBM in 1981, where IBM let Microsoft manage the operating system (DOS) thinking that the future was selling hardware? This famous negotiation deal that made Microsoft into the behemoth it is today, and was once the most valuable company of all time in 1998?
But value is not always where we think, and only people who understand the future will find it. For instance, with the web, the value is in the relation. Google creates value making sense between hypertext links connecting website. Facebook is creating value in understanding the relationships between people. Linkedin does the same with business relations. All of this is done with data and the interrelation of the data.
But with Internet of Things, where is the value? What if I told you the value is in the APIs?
Car manufacturers today have plans on making free cars if users accept to give away all their data to the seller. Soon, car companies will make more money by making sense of where you are and where you’re going. Just imagine, if they can monetize at 20 cents/mile, on 100,000 miles they make $20,000: A free car. For 30 cents/mile, they almost triple their profits and can give the car away.

Data has real value

They can collect and sell drivers’ data, traffic data, micro-location weather data, state of the road data and so on. They can sell ads on the radio or on the GPS with CPCD (Cost Per Change Direction), coupons to restaurants close to your destination, audiobooks to listen in the car — a lot of things to monetize your time and location in your car. Manufacturers will, of course, still try to sell it for some money upfront, but in the end, the price will probably depend on the data you allow to share and will tend toward $0 with competition and time.
By then, all connected hardware will be the same; they will be just data collectors. Google is collecting data through a search bar, Facebook or Linkedin through a web page/mobile app social profile. The next data collection frontier is hardware. Google Home, Alexa, Nest, and Fitbit will be here just to step into your everyday life to know your habits and what you need and how you need it. That is when the real “smart fridge” promise will finally happen, and it will probably be free.

This looks cool.

4 promising open source projects for 2018

This is a great writeup and the headphone jack is gone!

Google launched the Pixel 2 and Pixel 2 XL phones in a move that shows how it aims to embed its artificial intelligence knowhow, be a serious hardware player, and ultimately compete with Apple's iPhone 8 and iPhone X as well as Samsung's Galaxy S8 and Galaxy Note 8.
Toss in smartphones from the likes of Lenovo's Motorola unit and LG and you get a feel for what'll equate one helluva battle. Google's pitch is that it'll win with AI. Google's Pixel will be smarter and more simple in 6-inch and 5-inch versions with three colors: Kinda blue, Black, and Clearly white, according to the company. Pixel 2 will start at $649 and Pixel 2 XL will start at $849.
Google CEO Sundar Pichai kicked off the Google Pixel powwow talking about computer vision, machine learning and being AI first. "We deploy machine learning from the ground up," said Pichai.
That AI approach from Google and its second-generation Pixels lands a week after Amazon launched an Alexa barrage with a series of Echo devices. Apple's iPhone event also talked AI, augmented reality, and new features for the next decade.
Simply put, Google, Amazon and Apple are increasingly in a face-off between mega vendors. The reality though is that hardware is the vessel for AI and "how computing should work." That reality is why Google bought its way back into hardware via a deal with HTC. "Computing should adapt to how people live their lives," said Pichai.
In that view, Pixel and Pixel 2 are just part of a continuum for Google AI. That lineup includes Google Home gear -- Mini and Max -- as well as virtual reality. What's unclear is whether tech buyers will want devices that can blend AI personalities. Note Sonos will integrate Amazo

The Pixel Book!
Pixelbook is available with an Intel Core i5 or i7 processor, up to 16GB of RAM, and up to 512GB of SSD storage. It has two USB-C ports for charging or accessories. If you're using a Pixel smartphone, you can set the Pixelbook to automatically tether data when no Wi-Fi is available.
Alongside the aluminum-body Pixelbook, Google debuted the Google Pixelbook Pen for hand-writing recognition. Google partnered with Wacom for the Pen to make "the fastest stylus experience ever" with only 10ms of latency.
The Pixelbook also has a button that can be used to circle photo or text on the screen. You can look up words, find out more about a picture, add an event to your calendar, and more.
It's not clear how Android apps will support the stylus.
Pixelbook's battery lasts up to 10 hours, and if you run low on juice, 15 minutes of charging gets you up to two hours. Dual speakers, four microphones, and a 720p camera are also found on the laptop.
Google said the Pixelbook starts at $999, while the pen is $99. It's available in US, Canada, and UK on Oct. 31. Google is also offering a $249 protection plan for the laptop at purchase.

Yahoo what happened, 3 billion accounts compromised in 2013!

CarClinic with Glenn Power October 10, 2017

We love to buy cars and we seem to need a little help when it comes to keeping our rides running.

Glenn Power, mechanic and auto influencer, is in the studio and we are doing something that isn't being done on any other radio station in the Emirates, fixing cars.

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We have begun to notice that when we talk about repair issues on the air James seems to have issues with his car!

One thing is for sure these conversations are interesting, educational and entertaining.

The Show notes.

How does humidity impact on the AC of  car

Call yesterday about an equinox and the suspension and the hard suspension is this normal and what can we do to soften it

How do we know if our differential is shot

How important is it to use manufacturer related things tires… wiper

Do I follow the service interval recommended by my dealer, the manufacturer or the warning in the instrument panel?